I am in the process of rewiring my brain. It has been uncomfortable, yes. But I was uncomfortable anyway.
I am living life fully present. Deliberately. Intentionally.
I trust myself. I decide how I want to show up, what I need to believe in order for me to create my own results.
I questioned — and still do — everything my brain offers me. It feels true to think that but it really is not in line with how I want to BE in the world. So, I toss the thought. Try on something new.
That is how this works.
It is a choice to continue living life the way you are right this second. Do you like your choice? Do you like your reason for making this choice?
We always get to decide. We always get to love our decisions and the reasons for them.
The decision is yours.
When did you stop trusting yourself?
For me, it was in middle school. I was always the “class clown” and would pretty much do anything for a laugh. That ended up in me getting removed from the classroom more than once. And that was when I stopped trusting myself. Still needed to get that laugh. Though, it was out of integrity for me to misbehave like that.
Learning how to trust myself again has been the journey. I know what my long term goals are. I know what I need to do. “Sacrifice” the instant gratification for getting exactly what I want. And re-wiring my brain in the process. It is tedious but can anyone tell me it is not worth it? (Even if they could, I would not believe them!)
You have permission to trust yourself.
You have permission to know what is right for yourself.
You have permission to follow through with this information any which way makes the most sense to you.
Let’s set up a call so you can meet yourself again. This internal relationship with yourself is the most important one in your entire life. You are first a woman before mother, wife, daughter. We get lost in the middle somewhere. Let’s find you again.
It is not up to me to tell you if weight loss surgery is right for you. Only you know your answer for that. But what coaching offers is space to consider and questions to get you thinking about all of those questions.
Something that is often overlooked.
I did not actually take a time to consider how it felt to be in my life until someone asked me – what do you think about that?
Really take a breath. Consume what you are reading. Think. Feel. Decide how you want to think and feel.
Consider your own answers to these questions:
- Why did you have bariatric surgery? -or- Why do you want to have bariatric surgery?
- What are you making it mean about you that you __(fill in your previous answer)___?
- How does it feel when you think you are going to have surgery? -or- that you did have surgery?
- Was your weight loss maintainable? Why or why not?
- Have you ever been able to lose weight? If so, why has that weight loss not been sustainable?
Consider that society tells us weight loss is an external job. Just buy this shake, exercise like a dog, punish yourself in at least 4 different ways simultaneously, behave better – no, not like that, feel terrible even when you are obedient, feel even worse when you rebel, etc. etc. etc.
What if there was nothing wrong with you? Or the way you look?
What if the only thing that was wrong was the way you were making yourself feel because of the way you speak to yourself?
What if that is the root? What if that does not get sold in the shape of a pill or a powder or a peloton bike?
What if that is the only work you have to do in this world?
What would be possible for you? Would you change the way you think about yourself? Would you offer yourself emotional freedom? Would you have the surgery?
Leave yourself some room to consider these questions. And if you like your reasons, you’re golden.
Until next time…
Weight loss surgery was supposed to fix me.
I was supposed to be thin for the rest of my life. It was going to stop me from ever thinking about food ever again.
I was so wrong.
I remember with the lap band, I was so hungry for dinner. I took my first bite. It got stuck. And then I literally could not eat a second bite for like 2 more hours. I was just starving, sitting there at the table while everyone else was eating. I couldn’t take a single bite more. It was miserable.
That was one of the things that pushed me over the edge. I knew something had to give. That there had to be one more thing I could try to lose my weight.
Slowly, I started to like myself too much to have this be my life anymore. And that was what led me to having it finally removed.
And that’s what has brought me here. Right now. To your front door.
You can demand more from yourself just because you want to. Change your relationship with food — and your surgery — and your weight regain. Forgive yourself for making decisions you did. Make peace with the way life has gone. Gaining the weight in the first place. And even passively thinking that “maybe you were just not cut out to be skinny.” Like one of my doctors once told me.
The truth is we can all be at our natural weights. With awareness, attention, and practice — and a whole lot of self love.
Because why do this if not because you want to learn how to radically love yourself and to ultimately heal from all of this emotional garbage.
I’ve been there, done that. Join me. It’s time to stand back up, dust yourself off, and decide if you’re coming with me.
I know the gut wrenching shame when you gain back the weight (and then some) after having bariatric surgery.
I know it all too well.
I am here for you. Because I know now the way to permanent weight loss.
I’m on my way to my natural weight. Oh and did I mention I had my lap band removed 2 years ago.
I’m not a unicorn. I’m an example of what is possible.
This is totally possible for you, too. I’m here believing in you, and this possibility for your life. Let’s chat so you can feel the excitement and anticipation too.
That’s how we change your life together.