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Some Background

The first time I was brought to a Weight Watchers meeting was, I think, in middle school but it may have been in 5th grade. I had so much resistance to counting points. Sure, the method was “easy.” But NONE of my friends even knew what a diet was. They were minute. All of them were short and tiny. Even the boys.

I did not want to limit myself in anyway when it came to food. I had to limit myself in every other area of my life, it seemed — because I was always too much. Food became the practiced outlet for me to stuff down all of my feelings of being left out, too loud, weird, being bullied and being the bully. All of it was a dumpster fire that I was trying to figure out on my own to no avail.

So, I failed at every diet attempt. Because I taught my brain to use food to deal with every single thing happening in my life — good or bad.

Even in high school I distinctly remember, long before Bariatric Surgery became a thought in my brain for myself, that I vowed to myself that once I figured out this weight issue that I was going to teach it to anyone who listened. (I am SO PSYCHED BEYOND ALL MEASURE to tell you that I freaking figured it out, finally. But not before another decade and a half of punishment and mis-treatment of myself by myself.)

I went to college. A private school. I studied abroad. In Australia. I made lots of friends that were both girls and guys and I had no idea how to be a girlfriend or a friend with benefits or just a friend or even, let’s just say, a girl who happened to like boys. LOL. But, seriously.

I had a few boyfriends. Nothing all that serious or life changing. And I had been dumped before. But a little while after college graduation, I was told no by someone who I was totally rearranging my life for. And instantly my thought was, “How dare you say no to me, I do not even say no to myself.”

Knowing what I know now I see how destructive this thought is. How strongly I held on to it, and for years. (I feel like I still believe it a little though, and that is what life coaching offers. Asking myself the question, do I even want that belief to be true? And providing myself tools to ‘un-believe.’)

All of that to say, when I was 23, and single, of course I thought weight loss surgery was going to be the answer. I so desperately wanted to become someone different — someone worthy. No one taught me that love is unconditional — of myself, and everyone in my life; or that we are all worthy just because we are. (It is no one’s fault, people are doing the best with what they know.)

I struggled through the rest of my 20s trying to figure out why I was regaining the weight. I was a new mom taking a long hard look at what my life was. I had a beautiful marriage but I was scared to death about what I would be teaching my son.

I realized that I spent 29 years hating myself, my body, my personality, my sense of humor, my loudness, my laugh. Hating myself repeated nearly two decades of similar thinking, similar results, similar feelings. And I decided to try something completely radical. What if I start to like myself? What would change? How would I change?

This small and extremely powerful shift is what led me to confronting my terrible quality of life with the lap band. I liked myself too much to keep it — and I had it removed, without a revision. I wanted to keep trusting myself and allowing imperfection.

Since then I had my 2nd baby and I have lost more weight without the band (75 lbs) than I had with (60 lbs). I’m a coach for my people who are suffering just like I did. It is optional. You are worthy right now because you are. Nothing about you needs to change.

Join me to find your self-love, and permanently lose your weight as a byproduct. Let’s talk about what is possible for you and your future. We can spend 1 hour together getting to know the real you and who you want to be. Send me a message to get started.

You are worth it.

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Weight Loss Surgery made me paranoid

I could never eat a true meal in public. Not without embarrassing myself – or the people I was out with. Especially my husband when we first met and were dating.

So, I would play it safe in public. Some soup. Maybe some crackers. A hot tea.

And then I would get home and be starving. I would eat my “normal” meal at home by myself. This would normally be McDonald’s or pizza. And I had to be strategic in the ways I would go about eating.

My brain was excellent at problem solving. And still is.

The Lap Band effected so much more than my waist line. Coaching brought me back into living my life intentionally. Reminding my brain how I actually want to spend time and what I want to be thinking about. And now circling back around, helping to problem solve for you and our community.

Because I know what it is like. All of it. The shame. The struggle. The turmoil.

Life does not need to be this way. What would you rather be doing? Let’s get started.

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Ilana Charette, The Lap Band Weight Loss Surgery Coach

Ilana Charette is the life and weight loss coach for women who have had lap band weight loss surgery and are struggling with regain since pregnancy/kids.

She teaches women how to trust themselves and their bodies again with self-care, self-integrity, and self-love.

She offers one on one coaching where clients become aware of how their brains are working perfectly and are taught how to step into mastery of the brain to create an extraordinary life of abundance and unconditional love — and permanent weight loss.

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Transformation Tuesday

I am in the process of rewiring my brain. It has been uncomfortable, yes. But I was uncomfortable anyway.

I am living life fully present. Deliberately. Intentionally.

I trust myself. I decide how I want to show up, what I need to believe in order for me to create my own results.

I questioned — and still do — everything my brain offers me. It feels true to think that but it really is not in line with how I want to BE in the world. So, I toss the thought. Try on something new.

That is how this works.

It is a choice to continue living life the way you are right this second. Do you like your choice? Do you like your reason for making this choice?

We always get to decide. We always get to love our decisions and the reasons for them.

The decision is yours.

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Trust

When did you stop trusting yourself?

For me, it was in middle school. I was always the “class clown” and would pretty much do anything for a laugh. That ended up in me getting removed from the classroom more than once. And that was when I stopped trusting myself. Still needed to get that laugh. Though, it was out of integrity for me to misbehave like that.

Learning how to trust myself again has been the journey. I know what my long term goals are. I know what I need to do. “Sacrifice” the instant gratification for getting exactly what I want. And re-wiring my brain in the process. It is tedious but can anyone tell me it is not worth it? (Even if they could, I would not believe them!)

You have permission to trust yourself.

You have permission to know what is right for yourself.

You have permission to follow through with this information any which way makes the most sense to you.

Let’s set up a call so you can meet yourself again. This internal relationship with yourself is the most important one in your entire life. You are first a woman before mother, wife, daughter. We get lost in the middle somewhere. Let’s find you again.

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Why Bariatric Surgery?

It is not up to me to tell you if weight loss surgery is right for you. Only you know your answer for that. But what coaching offers is space to consider and questions to get you thinking about all of those questions.

Something that is often overlooked.

I did not actually take a time to consider how it felt to be in my life until someone asked me – what do you think about that?

Really take a breath. Consume what you are reading. Think. Feel. Decide how you want to think and feel.

Consider your own answers to these questions:

  • Why did you have bariatric surgery? -or- Why do you want to have bariatric surgery?
  • What are you making it mean about you that you __(fill in your previous answer)___?
  • How does it feel when you think you are going to have surgery? -or- that you did have surgery?
  • Was your weight loss maintainable? Why or why not?
  • Have you ever been able to lose weight? If so, why has that weight loss not been sustainable?

Consider that society tells us weight loss is an external job. Just buy this shake, exercise like a dog, punish yourself in at least 4 different ways simultaneously, behave better – no, not like that, feel terrible even when you are obedient, feel even worse when you rebel, etc. etc. etc.

What if there was nothing wrong with you? Or the way you look?

What if the only thing that was wrong was the way you were making yourself feel because of the way you speak to yourself?

What if that is the root? What if that does not get sold in the shape of a pill or a powder or a peloton bike?

What if that is the only work you have to do in this world?

What would be possible for you? Would you change the way you think about yourself? Would you offer yourself emotional freedom? Would you have the surgery?

Leave yourself some room to consider these questions. And if you like your reasons, you’re golden.

Until next time…

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WLS was supposed to fix me

Weight loss surgery was supposed to fix me.

I was supposed to be thin for the rest of my life. It was going to stop me from ever thinking about food ever again.

I was so wrong.

I remember with the lap band, I was so hungry for dinner. I took my first bite. It got stuck. And then I literally could not eat a second bite for like 2 more hours. I was just starving, sitting there at the table while everyone else was eating. I couldn’t take a single bite more. It was miserable.

That was one of the things that pushed me over the edge. I knew something had to give. That there had to be one more thing I could try to lose my weight.

Slowly, I started to like myself too much to have this be my life anymore. And that was what led me to having it finally removed.

And that’s what has brought me here. Right now. To your front door.

You can demand more from yourself just because you want to. Change your relationship with food — and your surgery — and your weight regain. Forgive yourself for making decisions you did. Make peace with the way life has gone. Gaining the weight in the first place. And even passively thinking that “maybe you were just not cut out to be skinny.” Like one of my doctors once told me.

The truth is we can all be at our natural weights. With awareness, attention, and practice — and a whole lot of self love.

Because why do this if not because you want to learn how to radically love yourself and to ultimately heal from all of this emotional garbage.

I’ve been there, done that. Join me. It’s time to stand back up, dust yourself off, and decide if you’re coming with me.

Let’s go.

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Bariatric Surgery Regain

I know the gut wrenching shame when you gain back the weight (and then some) after having bariatric surgery.

I know it all too well.

I am here for you. Because I know now the way to permanent weight loss.

I’m on my way to my natural weight. Oh and did I mention I had my lap band removed 2 years ago.

I’m not a unicorn. I’m an example of what is possible.

This is totally possible for you, too. I’m here believing in you, and this possibility for your life. Let’s chat so you can feel the excitement and anticipation too.

That’s how we change your life together.

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Introducing: My Flagship Coaching Program to work along side Weight Loss Surgery

I have 2 tremendous coaching programs.

My flagship is specialized to work in tandem, and cohesively with weight loss surgery.

Living a life post-op, your brain needs to catch up with your stomach.

Feel the peace. 
Trust yourself. 
Lose your weight. 
Utilize the tool of surgery you already have without resentment.

Work together with your body to change your life.

No more weight struggle.

No more feelings of inadequacy, 
or not being enough, 
or not being worthy of success.

I’m absolutely thrilled to share this work with the world.

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I’m at My Best when I’m Singing

I used to commute to work.

I’d have plenty of time to listen to music and sing.

Those days are long gone — and I couldn’t be happier.

The other day it occurred to me that I had not been singing.

I LOVE to sing. I LOVE listening to my music. So, how could this be?

So, I started singing again.

And I am learning lessons that I am ready to hear and learn and take with me for the long haul.

The universe is speaking to me and I am all ears.

What do you think the universe is trying to communicate to you?