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Transformation Tuesday

I am in the process of rewiring my brain. It has been uncomfortable, yes. But I was uncomfortable anyway.

I am living life fully present. Deliberately. Intentionally.

I trust myself. I decide how I want to show up, what I need to believe in order for me to create my own results.

I questioned — and still do — everything my brain offers me. It feels true to think that but it really is not in line with how I want to BE in the world. So, I toss the thought. Try on something new.

That is how this works.

It is a choice to continue living life the way you are right this second. Do you like your choice? Do you like your reason for making this choice?

We always get to decide. We always get to love our decisions and the reasons for them.

The decision is yours.

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Trust

When did you stop trusting yourself?

For me, it was in middle school. I was always the “class clown” and would pretty much do anything for a laugh. That ended up in me getting removed from the classroom more than once. And that was when I stopped trusting myself. Still needed to get that laugh. Though, it was out of integrity for me to misbehave like that.

Learning how to trust myself again has been the journey. I know what my long term goals are. I know what I need to do. “Sacrifice” the instant gratification for getting exactly what I want. And re-wiring my brain in the process. It is tedious but can anyone tell me it is not worth it? (Even if they could, I would not believe them!)

You have permission to trust yourself.

You have permission to know what is right for yourself.

You have permission to follow through with this information any which way makes the most sense to you.

Let’s set up a call so you can meet yourself again. This internal relationship with yourself is the most important one in your entire life. You are first a woman before mother, wife, daughter. We get lost in the middle somewhere. Let’s find you again.

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Why Bariatric Surgery?

It is not up to me to tell you if weight loss surgery is right for you. Only you know your answer for that. But what coaching offers is space to consider and questions to get you thinking about all of those questions.

Something that is often overlooked.

I did not actually take a time to consider how it felt to be in my life until someone asked me – what do you think about that?

Really take a breath. Consume what you are reading. Think. Feel. Decide how you want to think and feel.

Consider your own answers to these questions:

  • Why did you have bariatric surgery? -or- Why do you want to have bariatric surgery?
  • What are you making it mean about you that you __(fill in your previous answer)___?
  • How does it feel when you think you are going to have surgery? -or- that you did have surgery?
  • Was your weight loss maintainable? Why or why not?
  • Have you ever been able to lose weight? If so, why has that weight loss not been sustainable?

Consider that society tells us weight loss is an external job. Just buy this shake, exercise like a dog, punish yourself in at least 4 different ways simultaneously, behave better – no, not like that, feel terrible even when you are obedient, feel even worse when you rebel, etc. etc. etc.

What if there was nothing wrong with you? Or the way you look?

What if the only thing that was wrong was the way you were making yourself feel because of the way you speak to yourself?

What if that is the root? What if that does not get sold in the shape of a pill or a powder or a peloton bike?

What if that is the only work you have to do in this world?

What would be possible for you? Would you change the way you think about yourself? Would you offer yourself emotional freedom? Would you have the surgery?

Leave yourself some room to consider these questions. And if you like your reasons, you’re golden.

Until next time…

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WLS was supposed to fix me

Weight loss surgery was supposed to fix me.

I was supposed to be thin for the rest of my life. It was going to stop me from ever thinking about food ever again.

I was so wrong.

I remember with the lap band, I was so hungry for dinner. I took my first bite. It got stuck. And then I literally could not eat a second bite for like 2 more hours. I was just starving, sitting there at the table while everyone else was eating. I couldn’t take a single bite more. It was miserable.

That was one of the things that pushed me over the edge. I knew something had to give. That there had to be one more thing I could try to lose my weight.

Slowly, I started to like myself too much to have this be my life anymore. And that was what led me to having it finally removed.

And that’s what has brought me here. Right now. To your front door.

You can demand more from yourself just because you want to. Change your relationship with food — and your surgery — and your weight regain. Forgive yourself for making decisions you did. Make peace with the way life has gone. Gaining the weight in the first place. And even passively thinking that “maybe you were just not cut out to be skinny.” Like one of my doctors once told me.

The truth is we can all be at our natural weights. With awareness, attention, and practice — and a whole lot of self love.

Because why do this if not because you want to learn how to radically love yourself and to ultimately heal from all of this emotional garbage.

I’ve been there, done that. Join me. It’s time to stand back up, dust yourself off, and decide if you’re coming with me.

Let’s go.

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Bariatric Surgery Regain

I know the gut wrenching shame when you gain back the weight (and then some) after having bariatric surgery.

I know it all too well.

I am here for you. Because I know now the way to permanent weight loss.

I’m on my way to my natural weight. Oh and did I mention I had my lap band removed 2 years ago.

I’m not a unicorn. I’m an example of what is possible.

This is totally possible for you, too. I’m here believing in you, and this possibility for your life. Let’s chat so you can feel the excitement and anticipation too.

That’s how we change your life together.

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Introducing: My Flagship Coaching Program to work along side Weight Loss Surgery

I have 2 tremendous coaching programs.

My flagship is specialized to work in tandem, and cohesively with weight loss surgery.

Living a life post-op, your brain needs to catch up with your stomach.

Feel the peace. 
Trust yourself. 
Lose your weight. 
Utilize the tool of surgery you already have without resentment.

Work together with your body to change your life.

No more weight struggle.

No more feelings of inadequacy, 
or not being enough, 
or not being worthy of success.

I’m absolutely thrilled to share this work with the world.

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I’m at My Best when I’m Singing

I used to commute to work.

I’d have plenty of time to listen to music and sing.

Those days are long gone — and I couldn’t be happier.

The other day it occurred to me that I had not been singing.

I LOVE to sing. I LOVE listening to my music. So, how could this be?

So, I started singing again.

And I am learning lessons that I am ready to hear and learn and take with me for the long haul.

The universe is speaking to me and I am all ears.

What do you think the universe is trying to communicate to you?

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Am I wrong? Quite possibly.

I don’t know if I was actually wrong about every single thing I have ever done, but I am willing to be.

The reason why this came up for me is because basically every altercation or problem that had previously arisen in my life was solved on my part without intention, without conscientiousness, in “asleep” mode.

I had found a solution for myself and/or others without really considering the thoughts and beliefs behind it. Whatever it was, it did not come from a clean and deliberate space. I did not consider what kind of sisterhood, friendship, marriage, relationship was being created by the reaction, action or lack-thereof that took place.

The reason behind why I choose to be wrong now is because I quite possibly was and am. It’s ok. It’s all ok. I am glad to be wrong.

I want a stronger marriage, better friendships, and deeper relationships with everyone in my life and I am willing to take responsibility for all of it.

Here’s the key: whether I am wrong, or even if I was not — it does not even matter.

I want everyone around me to be able to be themselves fully. The same way I want to be that way too. I am letting go of all of it.

I welcome the feelings — being wrong, embarrassed, hurt, sad, like a failure, egotistical, boring, unimportant. Whatever you got.

I feel proud of myself because I have given myself the space and freedom to have been and to still be wrong. I did not know better and now I do. I accept all of it.

I want to invite you to experience the power of coaching and how it can serve you in your life. Contact me here and let’s get to know each other better. I’d love the opportunity to help you unleash your potential.

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Weight Loss ain’t Linear

Disclaimer: This post was written for me as much as it (might) have been for you.

Fact: The scale does not continue to go down. Fact: The scale is not something that is even and sensible.

Making any emotional investment into the scale is a sheer waste of time and energy.

Louder, for the back?

F*@$ the scale!

Do the habits. Do the habits. Do. The. Habits.

The habits will not let you down.

The trajectory which gets created as each habit gets practices means more in a few weeks, months, years than any other thing that you may do.

Do. The. Habits.

That is all.

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The Ugly Truth

I am a Life Coach. I am a Weight Loss Coach. One rolls off the tongue a bit more easily… Can you guess which?

My weight as of this morning is 245.8 lbs and I am a Weight Loss Coach. It takes practice and deliberate intention to believe this about myself. It takes questioning very specific belief systems I have about myself and the world to say this out loud and to share this here, with you, right now.

So, here is the thing. The secret. The way for me to be able to abandon antiquated belief systems no longer serving me — when the thoughts appear, I dismiss them and counter with the new belief I am practicing.

It really is that simple… and complicated.

And besides, here are the facts: I had Lap Band Weight Loss Surgery and immediately KNEW that it was my BRAIN that was the reason for me being overweight, for me enjoying to overeat, for me to crave the types of foods that I have in the past. There is absolutely no denying that. Surgery is a tool. The brain determines whether or not you experience success — of any kind.

Since having my weight loss surgery undone, and even in making the decision for myself — at the same weight I was when it was previously done — there is no denying that I’ve put myself into the hot seat. The public eye. With something that is typically thought of as a private and personal thing.

How could that be if I had not already changed the way I thought about all of that?

Exactly. Because I did.

And there is no hot seat. That is a thought! I do not believe there is a hot seat.

Here is what I know: I know exactly how to lose this weight. I am not restricting or depriving myself. I am living life the way I will for the rest of my life — without the extra food. I am feeling my feelings instead of eating in response to them. I’ve lost 75 lbs. I’m basically half way to my goal. And I have absolutely no doubt that I will get there.

But if I did not question, evaluate and change the way I thought, NONE of this would be possible.

So, what do you believe about you that is holding you back from achieving your wildest dreams?

Let’s get to work.